The distance of Eternity

Is being scared of a long distance relationship, never liking that kind of relationship by heart, a sign of immaturity, weakness and therefore wrong? Then being able to leave everything behind, to attain the dream, is truly a mature and strong man can do.

I understand perfectly that going out as in term of serious relationship doesn’t promise anything. Anytime the relationship may end thus letting everything you have walked with that another certain person will just flown away without an end of happiness. Fail, they say. You live only once, never twice. The question then, “Would you sacrifice that time of your life for that particular relationship which you don’t even know if it would ever yield anything after?” Naturally, it’s very typical for people to answer no in the end, no matter how they say how much they love their lover.

As a result, it’s understandabe that there’s no holding back for almost everyone to search away to the entire world for their own meaning of a youth success. Naturally, it also looks very wicked for a lover to try to stop his couple from going some place far away. If I’m asked with a question like, “What kind of future promise in the world can u give to that person that by not leaving you, she’ll be happy, that you’ll be together, that you and her will be successful?”, I definitely don’t have the answer, nor have the right to stop my loved one from going. Many people actually also don’t, that’s why they’ll say “Go!” with a smile no matter it’s true as it is that it hurts so much. Long distance relationship is never being nice nor friendly even just when you imagine that you have to be apart from your loved one.

Many people will joke around when a friend of his is left by his lover, “Be careful! She’ll get a better man out there!” or “The american guys are handsome you know!” Actually, it’s very unlikely that the problem lies there, though it happens, if YOU and YOUR lover trust and love each other enough. Instead, cheating is just an end result of a long distance relationship that fails. It’s about the process. How can you fill the gap between all those years. How can you keep a very good communication between all those times.

Why do you think a mother cries, after a long time not seeing his son though he knows his son is alright? It’s the gap of memories that you two have that can be very difficult to overcome that even if you manage to go through it, it’ll still make you want to cry. How much you’ve changed along that time. How much she’s changed. That she has cut her hair short, that her face is now clean of acnes, that the clumsy her is no more, that she’s not afraid of going alone anymore, that and those things that really happen and you can’t happen to know though you really want to. It can be so bad until you don’t know what to talk anymore with her, the old topics are not interesting anymore, and you can’t find anything that will connect you two because you’re unable to fill all those missing blanks. The relationship goes cold, very cold, and dies. That what is so scary.You have no idea, what’s happening with that person along that time.

I don’t know if it’s very silly, but I do believe that four text messages a day pattern is very hard to keep a relationship going. Something like : “Hi! How r u?” - “Cool! What about you?” - “It’s great over here. I’m going to bed anyway. Nite!” - “Oh nite ;)!” Do you think a relationship can keep on going that way with those kind of conversations everyday? A day may be fine, a week, a month, but what if it takes longer than that, a year, two years, more. The text messages, become more like a ritual instead of inquiries or curiousity like an evening pray that you recite without your heart. You have no idea what’s happening to the person, you can’t see her, you can’t talk to her, and there’s no time for you to tell her what’s happening to you, nor you ask about her since you’re so busy.

It’s very sad that often when you realize you already have too many blanks between you and her, that those are already too hard to fill. You miss that person so much, but you can’t get to her, and even if you can, maybe she can’t, if you two can, you don’t know what to do, then she thinks that you don’t care, you also think that she doesn’t bother to care, it feels like there’s a distance of eternity between you two. Or possibly after those times you or she will find someone else closer to who can give better affection, who has enough time to share. It happens everywhere. It’s hard without the good deeds of keeping an intact communication between the two. Is a four message pattern really enough to keep a relationship going? Tell me if you think you do. Maybe it’s me who’s not that strong enough.

If any of you want to call me childish, immature, weak-hearted, call me all the way you want, I won’t ask you to shut up, but I know you have no idea. I have never liked a long distance relationship, nor I will like it, well have you gone through it? I have no strong faith clearly if it’ll succeed, I failed once indeed, call me stupid for looking back in the past, you clearly have no idea what I went through. But if I have to jump into that boat again, I will, but I know what consequences I’ll face. I want to prevent it actually, but like I mentioned, the right is not mine to stop her, I know what she chooses between two. If she’s strong enough to choose and then go since I know maybe I am not, I’ll still try to be strong to let her go. Eventually, I’ll just say “Please go, but don’t forget about me. Message me everyday, make sure you keep me updated with your stories everyday! And please don’t forget to phone me from time to time!” since it’s definitely love in the air we have in the tiny moment of now. Thanks!