Apology, the hardest thing in the world
April 20, 2008 by CeRuLeaNSpHyRnA
If you’re ever asked a question, a question about the hardest thing to ask and give in the world, maybe this is an answer you can consider to give: an apology.
When we quarrel, debate, fight over something, provokes and spit the harshest words ever known in history in a very high temper to your dearest one, your closest friends, apology instead seems would be an abstract word that’s not known in the dictionary. Even once the quarrel is over, once your reason to fight has been defeated, apology often will stay as concept in your brain, nothing more than consideration. In the end, it’s the thought “Why should I ask for it, he was the one who started it” that often popped up, a way to defending one’s self esteem. Nothing resolves, even when the original dispute has been so meaningless now since no one has the initiative to say even the simplest of “I’m sorry!”
But if you really think about it, “I’m sorry” doesn’t always mean you had the wrong idea. I’m sure both of the quarelling party believe that they’re right. It’s an apology because the pain of the quarrel and all the bad words that you’ve thrown to the other end. Essentially, an apology could be asked more easily if you realize how much you have hurt the other end. and it doesn’t mean at all that you throw your self-esteem or you lose the game. In fact, you kept your ideal while softening the situation, far more intelligent that an endless quarrel.
How beautiful the world will be if we can fight and then recoup on the next day just like the mind of little kids, leaving all the adult’s self esteem and complexity. No need for that long and weary quarrel. Leave aside the solid rock mind of refusal of asking for an apology. I myself had been there, and eventually I knew how dumb it had been. Even so, Perhaps, often I’ll still be there. On that occasion, please just kindly remind me that “Apology doesn’t mean that you lose instead it’s how you can win the heart of your dearest one, lover, family, friends, everyone!” Good day :).
i do agree with you adrian… “Apology doesn’t mean that you lose instead it’s how you can win the heart of your dearest one, lover, family, friends, everyone!”.. ^^
“Apology doesn’t mean that you lose instead it’s how you can win the heart of your dearest one, lover, family, friends, everyone!”..
Does it mean we can use ‘apology’ to manipulate others - to win their heart -?
I’m afraid if ppl start to think that asking apology means winning someone’s heart, the true meaning of apology will be flushed away by his/her ego.
It is sad when apology is hard to say or to give, but it is sadder when apology is declared in the way of manipulation.
@hans : yea.. that’s why it should come from the bottom of your heart.. but still what’s good coming from overly long quarrel with your loved people.. u’re not getting anything and just hurting each other more.. u’re not even proving any point.. if u think u have hurted enough.. what’ll hurt from an apology
No matter who did wrong, just apalogize. It’s the most convenient thing to do. It won’t make you weak. It’s your winning in the end.
@ste : u win because u know what precious things u can lose if u insist on chasing that fake ‘win’..
da lama ga baca2 blog :s
yeah it’s easier to say
“u’ll be sorry if u hurt me ” than “i’m sorry to hurt u”
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btw , kyknya u sering update blog ya -_-